Marfa Lesbian Wedding: El Cosmico
Sarah Guarino & Amanda Shumate, Marfa, May 20, 2017
Photography by Marfalite Studios
NAMES Sarah Guarino & Amanda Shumate
LIVE IN Los Angeles
OCCUPATIONS Sarah is a shipping coordinator for a fine arts gallery; Amanda is a museum exhibitions coordinator for a fine arts shipping company.
HOW THEY MET Through work. Sarah: “Initially, we hated each other, having only worked together over the phone. Once we met face to face and spent more time with mutual friends, we started to fall in love.”
HOW THEY GOT ENGAGED The venue, El Cosmico, holds a special place in their hearts, as they vacationed there after just two weeks of dating. The next year, they returned. Walking amid the grounds’ concrete sculptures, Amanda dropped piles of feathers with accompanying notes, which Sarah read as she followed along. The feathers playfully recalled the first time the couple made out, atop a down pillow leaking feathers. When Sarah caught up, Amanda proposed and presented her with a concrete box of feathers.
REHEARSAL DINNER A barbecue, followed by a dance party at El Cosmico. The couple prepared salads and cheese and charcuterie plates, Sarah’s father grilled, and guests sipped a special Aperol spritz cocktail. Amanda: “It was really important for our friends and family to meet before the ceremony.”
WEDDING DAY WEATHER Sunny, windy, and hot
NUMBER OF GUESTS 70
WEDDING COLORS Gray and white
FLOWERS Simple but beautiful natural arrangements of subtle whites, greens, and other shades, with accent branches collected locally
DIY HIGHLIGHTS The couple dyed their own napkins, and a friend crafted ceramic candleholders.
THE MENU Brisket, grits, and salads, paired with Texas beer and wine, along with organic spirits. Sarah: “Everything was insanely delicious. The romesco sauce for the brisket was out of control.”
DESSERT A three-tier, white tiramisu cake with simple floral accents
MUSIC Two friends played guitar and sang during cocktail hour prior to the ceremony. Sarah walked down the aisle to “Moon River,” and Bobby Darin’s “Dream Lover” played as the couple were presented as wives. A friend helped create an eclectic reception playlist.
IF THEY HAD TO DO IT OVER They’d have planned more time to travel between the wedding night and their honeymoon in Ireland and London. They also might have curbed their alcohol intake. Sarah: “Drink less the night before the wedding. Don’t get into the hot tub with your wedding dress on.”
FAVORITE DETAIL Having friends and family members travel so far to attend the wedding
UNIQUE ELEMENTS OF THE DAY A vintage blue Mercedes served as the getaway car.
ADVICE FOR OTHERS Make it as personal as possible. Write your own vows, and have friends get involved in as many aspects as possible.
THE DAY IN THREE WORDS Overwhelming, magical, perfect
“Neither of us had ever fantasized about our weddings. So it was a completely new and spontaneous experience.”
CEREMONY, RECEPTION, RENTALS, AND LIGHTING
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You can find more resources for planning an LGBTQ wedding in this part of Texas in our Marfa Wedding Vendor Guide. Also check out our stories on planning the ultimate gay getaway in Marfa, and our guide to Marfa’s gay-friendly hotels and wedding venues.