Weddings of Our Own: Kendel & Lorenzo

Dallas, April 9, 2016

NAMES Kendel Powers & Lorenzo Bolton.
LIVE IN Preston Hollow, Dallas.
OCCUPATIONS Kendel is special events manager for the Dallas Arboretum; Lorenzo is a marketing manager for IBM.
HOW THEY MET At JR’s, a gay bar in Houston, on Easter Weekend 2012.
HOW THEY GOT ENGAGED In Manhattan, en route to brunch with their best friends on a chilly morning, Lorenzo suggested that the two walk along a particular stretch of Fifth Avenue. Kendel: “As we approached the end of the block, Lorenzo asked, ‘Do you see?’ Well, I couldn’t, because I had my entire head wrapped in a scarf. When I pulled it down, I saw a giant poster on the side of Tiffany’s with a picture of Lorenzo and myself and the words, “I asked him…” He then got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. Of course, I said yes, and he took me inside to choose my ring.”
BACHELOR PARTIES Kendel: “My closest friends and I dressed up in fuzzy animal onesies and hit the town. You know you have best friends when they’re willing to publicly make fools out of themselves just to make you happy!” Lorenzo’s bachelor party took place in Houston, his hometown. The group rented a gorgeous five-bedroom house with a pool and large kitchen for entertaining. “It was amazing—I felt like a ‘Real Housewife’ on a fabulous getaway,” he says.
REHEARSAL DINNER A couple of weeks before the wedding, Lorenzo surprised Kendel by booking the latter’s favorite restaurant, St. Martin’s Wine Bistro. Kendel: “The space, the music, and the food mirrored our relationship: Old World, classic, and full of love.”
WEDDING-DAY WEATHER Cloudy, and an hour before the wedding, it started to rain. Kendel: “I reminded myself that I was about to marry my best friend, and that even rain couldn’t dampen my excitement for what was to come.”
WEDDING COLORS Blue and black.
FLOWERS The boutonnieres were single magnolias, and table settings were done in white lilies, roses, hydrangeas, and hyacinths. The stairs and hallway, from the ceremony space to the cocktail and reception areas, were decked with flowers.
DIY HIGHLIGHTS Kendel hand-wrote every place card for the reception seating, which the couple took great care in planning. He says: “So often you go to weddings and end up sitting either with everyone you know or no one you know. I made seating arrangements that would ensure fantastic conversation throughout the evening. When you do things yourself, I think the love comes through.”
THE MENU Hors d’oeuvres included tuna wontons, bacon-wrapped scallops, and crab cakes. The formal seated dinner featured wedge blue cheese salads and a choice of filet of beef, Atlantic salmon, or sundried tomato–stuffed chicken, with sides of blue cheese gratin, grilled asparagus, red onion confit, and garlic-parmesan wilted kale. They poured Spanish Segura Viudas Brut Reserva cava for the toast.
DESSERT An eight-tiered chocolate cake with layers of raspberry ganache (Kendel’s choice) and a four-tiered vanilla–lemon curd cake with cream-cheese filling (Lorenzo’s pick). Both were “naked cakes” and inspired by recipes at MUSIC Kendel walked down the aisle to Des’ree’s “Kissing You,” and Mazzy Star’s “Fade Into You” played during the first dance. Kendel and his mother danced to Katharine McPhee’s version of “Over the Rainbow,” and Lorenzo and his mother danced to “The Prayer,” by Andrea Bocelli and Celine Dion.
IF THEY HAD TO DO IT OVER They would have been more specific with the DJ about which music to play during dinner. Kendel: “Make sure to document exactly how you want everything done. A mutual friend had given us a special candle embedded with our photographs. Someone lit it. Should have put a ‘do not light’ Post-it on it!”
FAVORITE DETAIL Locking eyes as Kendel walked down the aisle to join Lorenzo, who adds: “I think what made it extra special was that we hadn’t seen each other for a full 24 hours before the ceremony.”
UNIQUE ELEMENTS OF THE DAY The next morning they hosted a brunch just for their families. It was the first time both sides had met. “To see the generosity and openness toward our marriage and each other was incredible,” Kendel says.
UNEXPECTED EVENT The rain, which fortunately stopped just minutes before the ceremony commenced.
ADVICE FOR OTHERS Kendel: “Approach every hurdle and roadblock as a team, and allow each obstacle to become an achievement of teamwork.” Lorenzo: “If you can survive planning a wedding, you will do great in your marriage! Kendel and I planned this for a year, and it helped us understand that we have very different tastes about some things. It really took some negotiating to plan such a beautiful wedding.”
THE DAY IN THREE WORDS Personal, magical, momentous.

Vendor List

Warwick Melrose Hotel

Bartech Services

Kemily Wallace, Somewhere In Love Wedding Officiants

Kelley Roby, Warwick Melrose Hotel

Sonya Cogan Photography

Haute Floral

Diego Ortiz, Sugar Town Bakery

Tiffany’s (for Kendel), Central Diamond Center (for Lorenzo)

After Midnight (for Kendel), Vera Wang (for Lorenzo)


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