Weddings of Our Own: Kathryn & Shawna

San Antonio

NAMES Kathryn Luna & Shawna Anders.
LIVE IN Alamo Ranch, San Antonio.
OCCUPATIONS Kathryn serves in the U.S. Army; Shawna is an emergency room registered nurse.
HOW THEY MET At a CrossFit class, although initially they were just friends. Still, says Shawna: “I always had a feeling she was the one, never doubting she would be who I spend the rest of my life with.”
HOW THEY GOT ENGAGED Kathryn proposed to Shawna on Christmas night, 2014. They’d planned on a ceremony in Florida last August but the Supreme Court ruling inspired them to change plans and have a September wedding in San Antonio. “We lost a $75 deposit, but it was beyond worth it.”
BACHELORETTE PARTY Began with dinner at their favorite place, Rosario’s downtown. The fun continued at Howl at the Moon, and they ended the revelry at a strip club, The Palace.
WEDDING DAY WEATHER As the couple was getting ready the sun was out and there was a slight breeze. Then as Kathryn walked down the aisle, the sun snuck behind the clouds and the wind picked up.
COLORS Coral with taupe accents.
RECEPTION LOCALE The Gardenside courtyard at Granberry Hills.
THEME Simple and elegant.
FLOWERS Created by matron of honor’s sister. “We told her what colors we were using and to surprise us with the results,” Shawna says. She used calla lilies, roses, peonies, and gladiolas.
DIY HIGHLIGHTS A chalkboard sign to greet guests as they arrived at the ceremony—it read: We’re all family now. No need to pick a side, but if you must choose, I’d go with the bride.
THE MENU Baby spinach salad with Mandarin oranges and strawberries, Greek salad, pecan-crusted chicken with a chipotle cream sauce, feta basil–mashed potatoes, sautéed veggies.
DESSERT A friend created a formal three-tier cake, using almond cake with lemon-cream filling and carrot cake with buttercream filling, while another friend made a “fun” cake, designed with a kettle bell on top of two barbell weights. The cake inscription read: K [heart] S, where it all began.
MUSIC For their first dance, the couple chose John Legend’s “You and I (Nobody in the World),” followed by the “I Wanna Dance with Somebody” cover from Glee. (The latter cover had different lyrics: “someone to hold me in his arms” became “her arms.”)
IF THEY HAD TO DO IT OVER They would have invited more friends, and the reception and dancing would have lasted an hour longer.  “We felt rushed and like our heads were spinning.” FAVORITE DETAILS Shawna especially loved making eye contact with Kathryn as she walked down the aisle to join her. They also appreciated how much the flowers added so much to the venue, and also the sparklers as they departed the reception.
UNEXPECTED EVENT For Shawna, having her mom and sister walk her down the aisle.
ADVICE FOR OTHERS Shawna: “Don’t spend more than six months planning your wedding. We did it in eight weeks, and it was the perfect amount of time. You aren’t left with too much time to change your mind or doubt your decisions. Once a box is checked, move on. Keep your mind set on the end result, and that you’re getting to spend the rest of your life with the one you love most.”
THE DAY IN THREE WORDS Exciting, quick, memorable.
HIGH POINTS, AND CHALLENGES, OF PLANNING AN LGBT WEDDING For the most part, news of the pair’s wedding was greeted with acceptance and excitement. There were disappointments, however. A friend had originally arranged to have a “fun” cake baked for the couple. Upon learning that the cake was for a same-sex wedding, however, the baker refused, saying that it would go against her beliefs. “My friend was shocked by this closed-mindedness,” Shawna says, “but instead her sister-in-law happily baked it for us, and the cake turned out perfectly!”

“I had experienced some pushback and rejection from my family since the time I came out, up until the wedding day,” Shawna adds. “My mother and sister came to the ceremony and part of the reception. But my sister did not allow my niece [age 3] and nephew [age 4] to come. My brother did not come either.”

“My family has finally had a turning point,” she adds, “and has opened their minds, hearts, and homes to Kathryn and me as a married couple.  We have made huge progress with our relationship. It is such an amazing feeling. Kathryn’s family went above and beyond during the planning of our big day. They were there with us every step of the way. They never doubted us or questioned, and they were always accepting and helpful.” 

Vendor List

Granberry Hills–Gardenside

Heavenly Gourmet

Kori Ashton

Granberry Hills

Ryan Hamilton

Johnny Black Productions

Lindsey Meador Diegel

Jared’s Jewelry

Alfred Angelo

Marci Madla Brigance

Bryan Ramirez